Husband complains wife has become ‘lazy’ since falling pregnant
By Practical Parenting team
January 14 2019
“I work a lot (currently 55-60 hours a week on average) and am an attending physician. My wife is still finishing her fellowship training. But her fellowship is outpatient based and her hours are great. Maybe 30 hours a week she is in clinic,” he explains.
“I want to support my wife as much as possible...but ever since we found out we were expecting, she has suddenly become very different. She lost interest in work, we had recent fights about her wanting to quit medicine and stop working entirely to focus on caring for the kid.
“She no longer helps out around the home. I have to do all the laundry, cooking, dishwashing, trash, bathroom cleaning because she says she is tired all the time.
“She is often still out and about either hanging out with her co-fellows and girlfriends or sits at home watching TV,” he said.
The father-to-be also added that he was annoyed that his wife had purchased a $1200 stroller for their baby without checking with him first. He then added that he earns $550,000 a year and she earns $60,000.
“You need to give your wife a serious apology and take a more constructive approach to problem solving," said one.
She works 30 hours a week and is pregnant, is flooded with hormones and is probably a bit depressed, losing her drive for medicine with all the nesting instinct,” said one user. “I don't know how far along she is, but she probably has some symptoms, and it can be a bit physically exhausting.”
“The fact that we have to explain to him, a doctor, that pregnancy is hard on the body is… really, really scary,” said another.
Some people sided with the man, however.
“I am a female with kids and being pregnant is not a good excuse to be selfish with money, especially with expenses,” said one.
“While pregnancy is physically draining, if you can go mingle with friends you can do the dishes… picking and choosing when she is ‘so exhausted’ is not fair,” said another.
What do you think?