Mum reveals why she's desperate to have an affair

“I want to be told I’m beautiful, that I look sexy”

November 20 2018

Remember those heady days when you first met your partner? The flirting? Long weekends spend doing whatever you wanted? Lie-ins, lazy breakfasts in bed, trips to the cinema whenever you felt like it?

When you’re a parent of small children, those days can seem like a distant memory, another life even, as you and your partner navigate through a sea of drop-offs, bills, potty training and reheated dinners.

Mum Laura Mazza of Mum on the Run penned a very honest account of what marriage and parenthood can be like, and how easy it is to wish for something – or someone else.

“I want to have an affair,” she reveals. “I want to have secret conversations during the day. I want to write more than ‘sugar, coffee, milk and dog food.’ I want to write, ‘I can’t stop thinking about you’ or 'I can’t wait to touch you.’

“I want to be told I’m beautiful. That I look sexy in those pants. That I’m so wanted I make him weak.”

Laura adds that she doesn’t want to feel like someone’s mother, arguing over socks on the table or who gets more sleep – the mundane day-to-day things we all complain about.

But there’s a twist in the story. The person she wants all this with, is her own husband.

“I want to have an affair, but it’s not what you think. I want to have an affair with my husband,” she writes.

“Three kids later and it’s exhausting, and our relationship hasn’t just been put on the back burner, it’s forgotten.

“We are too exhausted to love each other. I don’t need it to feel like a new relationship, because what we have is so much deeper ... I don’t need just lust, because we have love. But I want that connection again and I want that spark. I want to have an affair with the man I married, because I love him, because every day I wake up he is still the first person I think of.

“I don’t want that every time I bring it up that it’s time to fight. I want him to know it’s not his fault, or mine ... it’s just time ... and I don’t want to wait until it gets away to have us back.”

Can you relate?

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