Stay-at-home-mum is SLAMMED when she asks husband for salary of $5,000 a month!

People did NOT hold back!

May 22 2019

A stay-at-home mum has been labelled ‘greedy’ and ‘ridiculous’ for asking her husband for a monthly salary of $5,000 while she’s on maternity leave.

The mum-of-one says she wants to spend the cash on going out with friends, shopping and treats for herself while looking after their baby.

The anonymous woman took to Reddit to explain that she's been a stay-at-home wife for three years, but since their one-year-old came she’s finding it hard not to have her own cash.



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"There are a lot of things I want to change but don't know how to, especially when it comes to finances which I feel like I have no power over.

"My husband earns good money but he's very frugal about nonessential spending because he wants to be financially independent (no job, earnings from investments) at an early age," the woman explained in a Reddit thread.

Currently every time she wants to spend more than $150, she has to call her husband to check it’s OK.

"This means if I go out to get clothing, makeup, brunch, little treats, etc. and the amount exceeds $150, I would need to call him beforehand and talk about what I'm buying," she wrote.


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"It feels extremely restrictive and quite frankly humiliating. He spends so little on himself that it seems like to him that I'm the one spending all the money on myself every month."

She admitted that this system works well for her sister who gets "a few thousand" every month to spend on whatever she likes – roughly the same as the family would pay if they hired a nanny.

"It's a bit cheaper where we live so I wouldn't be asking as much, but would I be the a**hole to suggest a similar arrangement with my husband so I don't need to go grovelling for money every time I want to buy myself something nonessential?"

 Followers of the thread were very quick to explain EXACTLY what they thought of her plan.

 "You want a salary for taking care of your own child? That sounds ridiculous," said one.

 “Greedy or what?” said another. “You want more than most people earn a month to buy coffees and look after your child. You shouldn’t have kids if you view it as a chore. You’re whole sense of self is wrong.”

"Sounds like you're a bored SAHM that wants to spend money on yourself because you can,” explained one commenter. “That's a lot of freaking money and sounds like he has you on a leash for a reason because you'd spend every cent you could," added another. 

But some suggested that it was fair to get some form of allowance as she is also giving up on aspects of her life to stay at home with their child.

 "She’s sacrificing too: job prospects, independence, security, personal retirement, so he can have the life he wants,” defended one person. “I think she’s asking for way too much money, but she should definitely have something.”


Do you think it's fair to get a ‘monthly salary’ to look after your children on maternity leave?

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