“The five words that ruined my wedding day”
Content Editor / May 28 2019
Your wedding day should be one of the happiest days of your life – but for one woman, it goes down as one of the worst.
Writing anonymously on Love What Matters, she describes her excitement on her big day, followed by total devastation when her fiancé – and father of her baby – said he couldn’t go through with it.
As the couple stood there on the altar, her partner looked at her and said “I just can't do it”.
“I heard his words, but couldn’t comprehend them. It was every girl’s nightmare, and my reality,” she wrote.
Her fiancé then fled the church, while her baby boy came toddling over to her as she sank to the ground.
The woman’s mother said “Oh I am going to kill him!” while another guest shouted for someone to go after the runaway groom, but the jilted bride was having none of it.
“I wept like a baby in their arms. My makeup was ruined, my perfect wedding day ruined, my heart ruined.
“They tried to get me back in my dressing room, but I was too numb to move, so my father shooed all the guests away and told them to give me some space.”
She stayed with her family for a few days, trying to pull herself together, and when she got home, all her ex-partners belongings were gone. No phone calls, no texts… nothing.
Eventually he contacted her sister by text saying simply: “I’m so sorry. You’d want me to be happy, right? I want that for her, too. I’m just not the one.”
Just three months later, her ex changed his relationship status on social media and the woman was confronted with photos of him with his new girlfriend.
Two years on, there’s still no contact from him and she doesn’t know what to tell her young son. However, she fears one day his Dad will try to come back and take him.
“Everyday, I remind myself that I am the strong woman who endured the biggest heartbreak. That got through it even when she thought she couldn’t,” she wrote.
“The woman that IS and continues to be a kick-ass mommy. The warrior woman full of love. The woman who is rewriting her own narrative.”
Nicola Conville has worked as a journalist and editor for more than 20 years across a wide range of print and online publications. Her areas of expertise are parenting, health and travel. She has two children; Lucy, age eight, and Nathan, age five.