Wedding photographers share the RED FLAGS that mean a marriage is DOOMED


Content Editor / April 09 2019

No-one gets married expecting it to end in divorce, but it’s the sad reality for around one in three couples.

On a recent forum thread on the internet, experienced wedding photographers share the signs they’ve spotted over the years that indicate a marriage is NOT going to last.

"I am/was a wedding photographer: I think you can kind of tell if they are going to stay together forever based on how they handle all the little (and sometimes even big) problems a wedding day can bring,” wrote one snapper.

Unsurprisingly, couples who cope well with little (or big) snags on the day have a good chance of lasting the distance, he said.

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Another photographer said flirty behaviour from the groom is not a good look – but happens all the time.

“Red flag: The groom winking at both my assistant and I during the ceremony,” wrote one woman.

“He was not winking in the sense that he might have been tearing up or had something in his eye but there was a part in the ceremony where the couple sat down and he would lean his head back in his chair look past his soon to be wife and wink at me or look over his left shoulder and wink at my assistant. It was bizarre.”

Smashing the cake into the other person’s face was generally NOT a good sign – as it can signal disrespect.

“Sometimes one of them (usually the groom) will force cake all over the others face and embarrass and upset them. I've seen this happen a handful of times and all of those relationships that I have kept up with have ended in a divorce,” added another photographer.

Couples who fought during the wedding were unsurprisingly tipped for divorce courts, however couples where one partner was very quiet throughout the day may be similarly doomed, photographers said.

“Typically I saw red flags when the bride or groom is super quiet. I mean silent and just watching.

“One instance was a groom who barely said ten words to anyone during the ceremony or reception afterwards. The bride and her mother were extremely loud and excited the entire time. The bride needed everything to be ‘perfect’. I dropped off the photo bundle with them two weeks later and he was still quiet. She however complained about all of the pictures because the groom wasn’t ‘smiling enough’. She wanted a discount because I couldn’t make him look happy enough.

“They got divorced about a year later. I know because I did his engagement photos with his new fiancée about four years after his first wedding. His engagement photos showed him much happier.”

Nicola Conville has worked as a journalist and editor for more than 20 years across a wide range of print and online publications. Her areas of expertise are parenting, health and travel. She has two children; Lucy, age eight, and Nathan, age five.

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