What I Wish I Knew Before I Had A Miscarriage
A brave woman shares her story.
By Practical Parenting
January 25 2017
A brave woman has shared what she wishes she knew before miscarrying.
Writing about her experience on Facebook, Emily Christine explained how excited she was to see her baby for the first time at her eight week scan, but as soon as the ultrasound began she knew something wasn’t right.
“I remember holding back the tears with every ounce of my being and not being able to look my husband in the face because I knew his pain would break me,” she wrote in her Facebook post.
Emily was sent home to let her “body naturally run its course”. And while she says her doctor was right about everything, there were some things she wished she was told.
“She didn't tell me I was going to be reminded for weeks to come because my body was going to take that long to “clean out," said Emily.
“She didn't tell me I was going to have to watch my husband weep. She didn't tell me how hard it was going to be to tell my mum what had happened.
“She didn't tell me that my body was going to continue thinking it was pregnant for weeks to come.
“She didn't tell me how hard it was going be to tell people I was fine when I wasn’t. She didn’t tell me that this was going to make me a jealous person over-night.
“She didn’t tell me how much harder the question “when are you having kids?” was going to be. And she didn't tell me that it was going to be so hard losing someone I had never met.”
On the other hand, Emily’s doctor did tell her how common miscarriages are.
“Miscarriages are SO real and so common, in fact, one out of four women experience a miscarriage; but don’t let that confuse you into thinking it hurts any less. As large as this statistic is, I still felt alone and I have finally figured out why: because no one talks about it,” she writes.
Speaking out about her experience, Emily hopes others won’t feel so alone.
She finished her post with a list of everything she hopes for other women who experience the same heartbreak.
"I hope that you won’t feel alone.
I hope that you let yourself cry.
I hope that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I hope that though your faith will be tested, you will be strong.
I hope you find peace.
I hope you won’t be afraid to try again.
I hope that you don’t blame yourself.
I hope that your friends hug you a little tighter.
I hope that you give someone else hope through your hardship
I hope that you are a light in the darkest of time.
…and I hope that you celebrate that baby’s life as much as you celebrate the next because no matter how short a life, all life deserves to be celebrated and all loss should be mourned."