Mums and dads have temper tantrums too

Being a parent is the toughest job there is

February 13 2019

Kids aren’t the only ones to lose it from time to time: Mum and Dads have temper tantrums too.

A recent post, written by January Harshe and shared on the Birth Without Fear Facebook page, reminds parents that it’s okay to have a meltdown, “you're still a good parent and human, and there's always a silver lining.”

"There are times in parenthood when you will simply lose fall apart,” she writes. “I'm completely serious. If you haven't yet, it is coming. If you have, then you know what I'm talking about.”

By January Harshe. "There are times in parenthood when you will simply lose fall apart. I'm completely serious. If you haven't yet, it is coming. If you have, then you know what I'm talking about. You're exhausted, pulled in too many directions, and pushed too far. It usually builds up with lack of sleep, always being needed, life stressors, and trying to force things. The bad part about losing your it is that it makes everyone sad. Sadness is part of life though, darling. We can't be happy 24/7. We need to learn and have growth. Like mom and dad guilt isn't bad enough though, a daddy or mommy temper tantrum is great at adding extra. But once the dust settles, you have a good yell or cry or both, and good things can actually come from it. Shedding all that frustration, hurt, anger, etc. can help you get to the core of the issue. It gives you clarity to see things from a different perspective and to build the pieces back up to be better than before. And it's OK to say sorry. It's OK to be forgiven. It's OK to forgive yourself. I'm not telling you to melt down for the sake of melting down, I'm just saying that it happens and it's not the end of the world, you're still a good parent and human, and there's always a silver lining. Take a deep breath, try to take some time to yourself to quietly process (when you can), learn from it, and try something different! Parenthood is the ultimate survival mode, problem-solving, multi-tasking job there is. Figure out what works for your family even if it seems completely unconventional. And be willing to leave some wiggle room for adjustments and change. If things are really feeling out of sorts, it may be best to take a step back and just go with the flow for a little bit. Say yes a lot more. You'd be surprised how that can help. Dads and Moms, you are allowed temper tantrums too and your family will love you unconditionally through them just like you love and support them unconditionally through theirs. That's what family does." ❤️ #birthwithoutfear #raisingkidswithoutfear

While it’s completely normal, "losing it" makes everyone around you sad, but as Harshe points out, there is an up side.

"Sadness is part of life though, darling. We can't be happy 24/7. We need to learn and have growth,” she said.

"Shedding all that frustration, hurt, anger, etc. can help you get to the core of the issue. It gives you clarity to see things from a different perspective and to build the pieces back up to be better than before.”

Being a parent is the toughest job there is.

"Figure out what works for your family even if it seems completely unconventional. And be willing to leave some wiggle room for adjustments and change," writes Harshe.

"Dads and Mums, you are allowed temper tantrums too and your family will love you unconditionally through them just like you love and support them unconditionally."