What stay at home mums do all day
For anyone who is confused.
By Livia Gamble
February 20 2017
For anyone who thinks stay at home mums have it easy, one mum is here to tell you that you’re sadly mistaken.
Writing a post on the Facebook page, Breastfeeding Mama Talk, mum Kristy wants to clear up any assumptions that stay at home mums do nothing all day.
“People assume that a stay at home mum stays home all day so that should mean the home is never a mess and everything is spic and span and if it's not then that must mean she did absolutely nothing, sat down eating bon bons all day,” she begins her post.
However, anyone who thinks this has forgotten one tiny detail: The “tiny human" she is in charge of.
“There is a human or humans that she is in charge of and responsible for meeting their every need, want, desire, and more,” says Kristy.
“They forget that she does clean only to have the kid projectile vomit all over the floor she just mopped. That she finished the dishes from last night's dinner only to have it fill up with breakfast and lunch dishes.
“That she picks up all the toys during their nap time only to have even more toys scattered everywhere when they awake.
“That she didn't even have time to enjoy a hot meal that day let alone sit down all day eating those magical bon-bons people keep referring to.
“That if she is sitting down for longer than fifteen minutes there is a 99 per cent possibility it's because she has a baby attached to her boob so there is not much else she could or even should be doing in those moments, so why not tune into Netflix during those feeding sessions. Just cause you see she is all caught up on her shows, it doesn't mean that's all she did that day, nor does that mean that would have been her first choice for entertainment either.”
Just because she watched Netflix, doesn’t mean there are other things she would like to be doing.
“Maybe she would have preferred to go to the mall or get a pedicure, but she couldn't because she can't really leave the house. Either because the partner has their only vehicle at work in "the real world" or it's just not ideal to go out with baby/babies in tow.”
There’s no such thing as alone time either.
“She craves even just five precious minutes to herself where she can get her head on straight, having to fantasise about it instead," Kristy continues. “That she is envious of her partner's thirty-minute commute to and from work to be alone listening to a great audiobook or something other than The wheels on the bus.
“That she counts down the minutes until her partner gets home so she could have someone to talk to that doesn't say "Goo goo ga ga" back.”
Kristy finishes her post with a reminder:
“So the next time you see the house is not so tidy and she only seemed to have the energy to cook a frozen meal that night, just look at the kids and remember she is their whole world, so every part of the house you feel she neglected, went to keeping those tiny humans. loved, fed, & happy instead.
“Give her a kiss and ask what can you do FOR her, even though you're tired and we're working all day, she worked too, but she didn't get three required breaks and that commute to and from work like you do. She worked hard, even if you can't tell she did.”
The post has been shared on 2,000 times with many praising Kristy for her words. "Thank you for this I'm literally crying while I read this and it really helps," wrote on mum.
While more dads are taking on the role of stay at home dad, Kristy added in the comments, "I'm a mum so I write from a mum's perspective."