Mum-to-be charges $20 entry fee for gender reveal party


Content Editor / July 16 2019

A mum-to-be raised eyebrows recently when she threw both a gender reveal party AND a baby shower, and requested that guests pay for the privilege of attending.

In a post on Reddit, a friend of the woman’s revealed that she had initially been invited to the shower, and booked time off work and bought gifts for the mum-to-be. But then the plan changed…

“About a week before the baby shower I get a text from her saying this party would actually be a gender reveal party and they were having a separate baby shower 3 weeks later that she wanted me to come to as well,” she wrote.

“Okay... I was slightly annoyed because I knew I was going to have to request off work again and buy another gift. I told her I would try my best to be there but I couldn’t make any promises."

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“Two days before the now “gender reveal” party she texts me in a group message of people and says there’s an entry fee of $20 to the party! I was seriously blown away.”

The woman goes on to say that while she understood parties cost time and money to organise – it was the mum-to-be’s choice to have one!

“I texted her privately outside the group message and told her I didn’t have $20 extra to bring to the party, since I already got her a gift and had other bills to pay,” she added.

“She replied saying ‘Sorry girl, I can’t make just an exception for you. You promised you would be there!’”

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The woman decided not to respond, and didn’t go to the shower. Needless to say, this did not go over well with the mum-to-be.

“She texted me a few days later informing me I was disinvited to the future baby shower and how she was appalled I couldn’t even send a message to let her know I wasn’t coming after I said I would be there,” she wrote.

“Although, she knows my situation and that I live paycheck to paycheck. I have now lost a close friend.”

The thread has almost 900 comments, with most people agreeing that it was too much to expect people to pay $20 on top of having to buy gifts as well.

Others added that it was unfair to spring the entry fee on people after they had already agreed to attend.

What do you think?


Nicola Conville has worked as a journalist and editor for more than 20 years across a wide range of print and online publications. Her areas of expertise are parenting, health and travel. She has two children; Lucy, age eight, and Nathan, age five.