Mum Shares 'Unspoken Reality' Of Breastfeeding

'Am I doing something wrong?'

November 09 2016

The feeling you get when your newborn cries for milk is hard to describe. The heartbreak you feel when your newborn cries and you don't have milk is even harder to describe. Nevermind that the nipples are cracked and sore, baby's cries sound like ringing alarms INside the brain and I'm desperate to do anything to alleviate his discomforts and meet his needs. When the night hits, I have to make a choice to supplement with formula or let him sleep hungry. Or more like wake up every hour, stress and fuss to calm his hungry cries, fight with my loving partner, and feel like a failure--shame. And still, which ever choice we make, nobody wins--shame. What the hell is in formula? Why does this stuff smell like rubber? Will my milk ever come in? Am I doing something wrong? Nobody ever told me. Nobody ever told me about the challenges of breastfeeding. This must be an unspoken reality for SO many new moms. I speak to myself and whoever may be struggling to feed their newborn. Feel no guilt or shame as you continue into your journey of motherhood. Some things we just cannot control, and so, we will make the best choices that we know how and we will have done it all with love in our hearts SO full that it cries out from our eyes. I love you. Bo. Ps. God is good and community is even better. Because milkmaids are a thing and I have sisters. Sisters with babies who love me and love my baby!! Community community community community. Sisterhood sisterhood sisterhood sisterhood. Mothers before me before her before her before her. Pps. Milk increases everyday and we have to supplement less and less each night 👶🏻🍼
The feeling you get when your newborn cries for milk is hard to describe. The heartbreak you feel when your newborn cries and you don't have milk is even harder to describe. Nevermind that the nipples are cracked and sore, baby's cries sound like ringing alarms INside the brain and I'm desperate to do anything to alleviate his discomforts and meet his needs. When the night hits, I have to make a choice to supplement with formula or let him sleep hungry. Or more like wake up every hour, stress and fuss to calm his hungry cries, fight with my loving partner, and feel like a failure--shame. And still, which ever choice we make, nobody wins--shame. What the hell is in formula? Why does this stuff smell like rubber? Will my milk ever come in? Am I doing something wrong? Nobody ever told me. Nobody ever told me about the challenges of breastfeeding. This must be an unspoken reality for SO many new moms. I speak to myself and whoever may be struggling to feed their newborn. Feel no guilt or shame as you continue into your journey of motherhood. Some things we just cannot control, and so, we will make the best choices that we know how and we will have done it all with love in our hearts SO full that it cries out from our eyes. I love you. Bo. Ps. God is good and community is even better. Because milkmaids are a thing and I have sisters. Sisters with babies who love me and love my baby!! Community community community community. Sisterhood sisterhood sisterhood sisterhood. Mothers before me before her before her before her. Pps. Milk increases everyday and we have to supplement less and less each night 👶🏻🍼

Speaking to herself and anyone else currently struggling to feed their newborn, Cho asks parents not to feel "guilt or shame as you continue your journey into motherhood.

 

"Some things we just cannot control, and so, we will make the best choices that we know how and we will have done it all with love in our hearts SO full that it cries out from our eyes."

 

Cho says she finds it hard to describe the feeling she gets when her newborn cries for milk.

 

The heartbreak you feel when your newborn cries and you don't have milk is even harder to describe, she continued. Nevermind that the nipples are cracked and sore, baby's cries sound like ringing alarms inside the brain and I'm desperate to do anything to alleviate his discomforts and meet his needs.

 

When the night hits, I have to make a choice to supplement with formula or let him sleep hungry.

 

She finishes, saying, Breastfeeding is definitely a journey with ups and downs but seeing them so content after feeding is the best feeling ever.”

 

Bo Namu Cho Liengaard. Born 10/26/2016 2:42PM, Whidbey Island, WA. Coming out of a cloud of loving emotions and everything that is. Milk is flowing and my heart is so full, I can't stop smiling. Today marks a week and one day of our baby's life. Wow, what an incredible journey already. Thank you. SO so much.
Bo Namu Cho Liengaard. Born 10/26/2016 2:42PM, Whidbey Island, WA. Coming out of a cloud of loving emotions and everything that is. Milk is flowing and my heart is so full, I can't stop smiling. Today marks a week and one day of our baby's life. Wow, what an incredible journey already. Thank you. SO so much.

The reaction to her post has been positive with other mums thanking Cho for sharing her story.

  

“Thank you so much for sharing - my baby is 3 weeks and went through exactly the same, to experience the feeling of not being able to feed your child is totally heartbreaking and no one tells you beforehand of the potential challenges,” wrote one mum.

 

Another wrote: “I can totally relate to your experience.”

 

Speaking to The Huffington Post, Cho revealed why she decided to voice her struggles: “This very beginning stage of motherhood has taken me by a whirlwind, and I’m floored. I needed a way to articulate this very visceral experience.”