Mum carries triplets to full-term knowing one has tragically died in her womb
It's been really tough on the whole family...
By Frances Sheen
May 17 2019
A devastated mum endured half her pregnancy knowing one her triplets would be born stillborn.
Kirsty Alexander, 33, and her husband John, 39, fell pregnant in July 2018 but she experienced some very early bleeding.
Fearing it was a miscarriage, Kirsty and John booked in an early ultrasound at seven weeks, and discovered there were THREE heartbeats.
"I immediately laughed and cried simultaneously, and my hands were shaking," Kirsty explained."The nurse in the room had to get me some water because I became so faint."
Unfortunately, at 18 weeks, a scan showed that one of the babies had fluid on her brain and shortly after she died.
Kirsty and John had joked that their three little babies looked like ‘dots’ in the womb so they called the baby who passed away, Dotty.
But there was nothing they could do to remove Dotty and she remained in the womb with her brother and her sister.
All three babies were born at full term and, Dotty, Delilah and Wilfred were delivered via caesarean on March 6, 2019.
After the birth, Kirsty became terrified that the other two twins were at risk of dying too and her anxiety spiralled out of control.
"I was advised to start trying to share my feelings and emotions, but I just didn't feel strong enough to speak face to face about what happened. That's when I started using Instagram to share how I was feeling. It helped so much to let go of some of the fear, upset and anger that I had bottled up,” Kirsty revealed.
Since then, she has shared her journey on her Instagram page and has found a network of women in a similar position who give each other support and love.
"Since having the triplets and going through that grief but also feeling such joy for our surviving babies, it's truly put into perspective how precious life is. I appreciate every second I get with my babies; I hold them even tighter and love them even more unconditionally than I even thought possible since losing Dotty.
"The strength of any parent who has experienced loss is phenomenal, but so many of them suffer in silence and don't get the support they need and deserve. Talking really does help lift the weight of grief, but parents need support to feel like they can open up to get through what is the most heart-breaking experience."
If you or anyone you know needs help after losing a baby, you can contact:
SANDS: 1300 072 637 An an independent organisation that provides support for newborn death, stillbirth and miscarriage.
Pregnancy Birth and Baby: 1800 882 436 Trusted advice and emotional support anytime 7 days a week.
Bears of Hope 1300 11 HOPE Provides grief support and care for families who experience the loss of their baby.
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