Mum Puts A Stop To Bottle Feeding Guilt With One Picture

'Never doubt your choices'

November 29 2016

I still feel guilty every day that I'm not breastfeeding Aoife anymore. Because mum guilt is a HUGE BITCH. I had my reasons for stopping. So many reasons (she took hours to B'feed, it wasn't fair on Harry, so many latching probs meant too much air then too much wind and reflux, ohh and my PND and anxiety...). At 4 months we called it quits and it was such a painful decision. Life definitely got easier, we were all a lot happier. But I still, 8 months on, think I gave up too easily. I didn't, I know that, but I still can't help being really hard on myself... Add to that the stare I got from a woman today at the park when I pulled out Aoife's bottle... Jesus, it was SO judgey. The thing is, FED is best. Aoife was (and still is) more satisfied on the bottle. It doesn't matter how we feed our babies, as long as it's safe and they're nourished and happy. Never doubt your choices, you have to do what's right for you and your whole family - whether that be breastfeeding until they're toddlers or never being able to even start. And tell mum guilt to just F OFF 😜😂 [PS I've found the comfiest 'I don't have to change bras before leaving the house' wire free bra that actually holds me up properly - prior to finding these I was still wearing my old grotty maternity bras around 😂 🙈#sohotrightnow Thanks @bfreeaustralia 🙌🏼] #fedisbest #bottlefeeding #uniteinmotherhood #nofiltermum
I still feel guilty every day that I'm not breastfeeding Aoife anymore. Because mum guilt is a HUGE BITCH. I had my reasons for stopping. So many reasons (she took hours to B'feed, it wasn't fair on Harry, so many latching probs meant too much air then too much wind and reflux, ohh and my PND and anxiety...). At 4 months we called it quits and it was such a painful decision. Life definitely got easier, we were all a lot happier. But I still, 8 months on, think I gave up too easily. I didn't, I know that, but I still can't help being really hard on myself... Add to that the stare I got from a woman today at the park when I pulled out Aoife's bottle... Jesus, it was SO judgey. The thing is, FED is best. Aoife was (and still is) more satisfied on the bottle. It doesn't matter how we feed our babies, as long as it's safe and they're nourished and happy. Never doubt your choices, you have to do what's right for you and your whole family - whether that be breastfeeding until they're toddlers or never being able to even start. And tell mum guilt to just F OFF 😜😂 [PS I've found the comfiest 'I don't have to change bras before leaving the house' wire free bra that actually holds me up properly - prior to finding these I was still wearing my old grotty maternity bras around 😂 🙈#sohotrightnow Thanks @bfreeaustralia 🙌🏼] #fedisbest #bottlefeeding #uniteinmotherhood #nofiltermum

”I still feel guilty every day that I’m not breastfeeding Aoife anymore,” Rennie wrote in the caption.

 

The mother of two stopped breastfeeding her youngest at four months due to latching problems and mental health concerns.

 

“At four months we called it quits, and it was such a painful decision,” she wrote. “Life definitely got easier; we were all a lot happier. But I still, eight months on, think I gave up too easily. I didn’t, I know that, but I still can’t help being really hard on myself...”

 

She's still there. My old mate PND. Or is it PNA? Or a combo? Or just plain anxiety? Lurking in the background. Most days, I forget she's there. She's been there 8 or so months now, so I kind of got used to her. The thing that reminds me is that little tablet I take every morning. I tried going off the medication. It didn't work. I felt wound up 24/7 again, so stressed (about any and every little thing) and that dark cloud started to overshadow things again... 😪 So I'm back on the meds. I felt like a failure, massively. I thought I was better. I AM better. I'm doing a few key things differently and they're making the world of difference. But still, my brain says I "shouldn't" be on them. But then I thought, my babes need me to be right. For them. So we can make the most of every day together in this glorious life. I have to continue taking them, for now, for them. Yes, for me, but your priorities kinda change when your little babes arrive right... I'll get there one day. But for now I'm just fine where I am, and enjoying every moment. #pnd #postnatalanxiety #keepingitreal #stigma [PS thank god for Snapchat filters 😂🙌🏼]
She's still there. My old mate PND. Or is it PNA? Or a combo? Or just plain anxiety? Lurking in the background. Most days, I forget she's there. She's been there 8 or so months now, so I kind of got used to her. The thing that reminds me is that little tablet I take every morning. I tried going off the medication. It didn't work. I felt wound up 24/7 again, so stressed (about any and every little thing) and that dark cloud started to overshadow things again... 😪 So I'm back on the meds. I felt like a failure, massively. I thought I was better. I AM better. I'm doing a few key things differently and they're making the world of difference. But still, my brain says I "shouldn't" be on them. But then I thought, my babes need me to be right. For them. So we can make the most of every day together in this glorious life. I have to continue taking them, for now, for them. Yes, for me, but your priorities kinda change when your little babes arrive right... I'll get there one day. But for now I'm just fine where I am, and enjoying every moment. #pnd #postnatalanxiety #keepingitreal #stigma [PS thank god for Snapchat filters 😂🙌🏼]

Rennie regularly promotes the importance of mums supporting each other instead of ridiculing every decision they make.

 

”There’s too much judgement out there about the different choices a mom can make,” she said. “As long as it’s safe for the baby, why should we judge another mum for however she chooses to ‘mum’?”

 

Flashing back to this time last year... Ohhh the memories 💕 3 babes under 3.5 wouldn't be THAT bad, right?! 😉 #myloves
Flashing back to this time last year... Ohhh the memories 💕 3 babes under 3.5 wouldn't be THAT bad, right?! 😉 #myloves

The mother has been the subject of online bullying over her nearly three years of motherhood. When it came to the decision of increasing her first bub’s daycare hours, one mum wrote, “Why have another baby if you can’t even take care of the one you have already?”

 

Whilst Rennie’s wish of mothers to stop judging each other seems simple, it’s certainly one that many would like to see fulfilled.

 

“Daycare or not, breastfeeding or not, it’s all the same ― we make the right choices for us and our family, and it’s no one’s business but our own,” the mum said.