Carrie Bickmore has taken to the airwaves asking listeners for advice.
Speaking with co-host Tommy Little, Bickmore said showering with her 9-year-old son has become the ‘favourite part of the day’.
“I love a shower and fortunately in my house, in one shower there happens to be a double shower and I often shower with my son Ollie, and he’s nine,” Bickmore said.
“And I’m going to say it’s almost one of my favourite times of the day, because it’s very hard to get a boy, to get a son to talk to you. Often they ... give you one word answers. ‘How was school? Fine. How are your friends at school? Good.’ But for some reason when we’re in the shower — Ollie has his shower, I have my shower — we just chat and we talk about everything. He tells me what’s going on at school, and I love it. It’s such a beautiful time,” Bickmore said.
“It’s not like we’re snuggling under the one. He’s got his space, I’ve got mine and he’s not forced to go into the shower, thankfully. I’m not like, ‘Get in the shower, mum’s coming in too!’”
However, when she recently told a friend about their habit, the response wasn’t what she expected.
“I was talking to my girlfriend the other day and she said to me, ‘You’re going to have to stop that pretty soon,’ and I said, ‘Will I?’ and she said, ‘Yes, he’s nine!’
“And then I said, ‘Oh my God what am I doing? Am I scarring my child?’ And ever since I’ve felt really self-conscious about it. This feels to me completely normal but felt slightly weird to her,” Bickmore said.
After further conversations with her friends, she realised those with daughters the same age have stopped letting them shower with their dads, but "the ones that have sons are still showering with their sons and aren’t finding it weird either,” she said.
“There must be a time though ... do I stop it before it becomes weird? Do I wait until he says, ‘Nah, I don’t really want to do it anymore Mum.’ Even talking about it makes it sound weird, but when we’re in the moment it couldn't be less weird and it’s made me really self-conscious.”